STAY PUSSYTIVE - we need to talk more about the vulva & vagina

The other day I received a text message from one of my closest friends where she told me that she had bought a key ring for both of us representing a crocheted vulva with a small pearl as a clitoris. I was so incredibly happy! Both over receiving a gift completely unexpectedly and over the fact that she knows me so well and knows what makes me happy. Getting a key ring that looks like a vulva makes me really happy ❤

Between cooking and bedtime stories for children, we continued texting for the rest of the evening about vulvas and vaginas and why it's easier to tell that you have lice than to talk about itching in your genital area. I can be triggered by that. The injustice in that women must often have to suffer a little bit and that it must also happen in silence. And that there is so much we still can't talk about, which is embarrassing and about everything we don't yet know about our gender. Whereupon my friend wrote:


"By the way, was at tantra two weeks ago and learned
that we can have 10 different orgasms.
I only knew about two!”

 

There you see. Whether it's true or not, it's yet another proof of how little we know about our gender and how rarely we also share experiences. I have probably never shared any personal experience of "different kinds of orgasms" with my girlfriends. In all honesty, I have no idea if my friends get even one small orgasm or can get ten different varieties.

In the ongoing conversation about the female sex, there can sometimes also be a misdirected anger towards men who compare men's and women's "suffering" instead of focusing on the incredibly fantastic phenomenal of the vulva and suggest, for example, highlighting how impressive muscle uterus is (if men had a uterus, they would have hyped it up for sure 😉).

I will admit that there have been times when I have angrily lashed out at my husband about all the genital ailments that women can suffer in an attempt to demonstrate some sort of gender injustice. Ailments that also include birth defects, menopausal symptoms, and PMS, not to mention the “orgasm gap” where studies have shown that approximately 95 percent of heterosexual men orgasm during partnered sex, while only 65 percent of women do. Even though it is women and not men who (according to tantra) can have 10 different kinds of orgasms 😊

But I'd rather not end up there. That I start devaluing and comparing who has been "tormented" the most. I think it will be the wrong focus. It does not create good energy. The focus should be on lifting, celebrating and literally bragging about the female gender. That we de-dramatize everything that is perceived as embarrassing and share our experiences with each other and that we also make sure to acquire a lot of knowledge about our gender. For example, that we learn everything about menopause and how our menstrual cycle works. That we look in a mirror and see how we actually look and yes...absolutely more knowledge about the female orgasm!

In a previous blog The gynecologist answers questions you have never dared to ask, gynecologist Arne Rådestad tells us that many women have never looked at their vagina with a mirror. Arne also tells us that one of his biggest lessons as a gynecologist is the huge variety there is in the vulva. That vulvas both look different and that there is also a big difference between how different women relate to their female genitals. I wish we could talk a little more about that.

Read the entire blog The gynecologist answers questions you've never dared to ask here

This week I received an email from one of our customers who had just written a wonderful review about one of our VagiVital products where she also reminded me of the importance of sharing our experiences:

"I think it is so important that we talk openly about this topic.

Vaginal problems are really something I'm passionate about because I

have had so many problems over the years. We women who have these

problems need to get information like this out. To be told that one does not

being alone is so important! Hope the research on vaginal problems gets better!! 🌸"

I am so incredibly proud to work for VagiVital, which focuses on women's intimate health and with products that have been developed based on research. Focusing on intimate health for women - in a natural and de-dramatized way, with humor and a twinkle in the eye ❤ is so incredibly valuable. My business card says STAY PUSSYTIVE at the bottom for a reason. My CEO asked me a while ago what the term means to me and there are several answers to that question. For me personally, STAY PUSSYTIVE means a positive approach to the vulva. To have a curious approach with a touch of humor. "Love the vulva" may sound a bit pretentious, but I wish all women (and men) would remove everything embarrassing, guilt-ridden or negative about women's genitals. Regardless of dry mucous membranes, foul-smelling discharge, birth injuries, urinary tract or fungal infections and so on. All part of the female genitalia.

You can find VagiVital AktivGel for dry mucous membranes here

Of course, I understand that it can be extremely difficult to "love one's vulva" during periods of various ailments, but maybe it is just then that we should send a little extra love to our gender ❤?

What does STAY PUSSYTIVE mean to you?

Feel free to send me an email with your personal thoughts ❤

Email: fanny.falkman-grinndal@peptonicmedical.se

Stay Pussytive & enjoy the summer 🌺

/Fanny

PS. My name "Fanny" ironically actually means vagina (Swedish), which I am extremely proud of ❤ DS.